It Is What It Is

 

Don't get distracted by the specifics and

the minutia of negatives and dead-ends;

the world is full of people who are interested in

you not reaching your goals, either by

actively and viciously thwarting you,

or by passively and apathetically refusing

to assist or support you.

 

Let it be.

 

Resentment and anger over lack of faith,

betrayals, getting jammed up, lies,

character assassination, upset over injustice,

fighting off specific mischaracterization and libel,

and all the rest is just an ENDLESS, tiresome

game that can never be won.

 

And if you're spending your time recounting

all the shitty people of the world, you won't have

 any time left to fulfill your dreams.

 

So, keep your eyes on the prize.

Don't be distracted by the gutter trash or

present circumstance.

Don't take on the doubts of others.

Have enough faith and belief in yourself

to make up for all the world.

And keep. on. moving. forward.

No matter what.

 

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Rewired

 

ASSUME NOTHING,

 

EXPECT NOTHING,

TRY EVERYTHING.

 

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How to Handle Irritations

The Real Secret

Just be rich and mostly white...

...and EVERYTHING will be all right!

In America, you can get away

with murder with creds like that!

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Go With the Flow



Pain and struggle
are part and parcel
of this boondoggle.

Make peace with it
and push through.

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Always a Good Policy

....Even though most of us have to work at it

to make it a reality!

One foot in front of the other.

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Put the Cart Before the Horse



Oh, girl! THAT ain't it!!

If you waited for other people to catch on to what a find you are or recognize how much talent you have,
you'd be wasting a whole lot of precious breath and
time!

You don't wait for others to pay heed...
you can't hope that others will notice your work ethic...
the old adages you were taught about modesty and
demurity being virtues were horseshit-cubed!

You have to TELL your talents.....
shout your own abilities....
brag on your accomplishments.

BELIEVE in yourself even and especially when no one else
seems to. (Or, more apt, when the world runs you down!)

That's the ticket, Captain!

The only way to get ahead is to force your way ahead.
The only thing soft-spoken and kind-hearted gets you
is a seat at the back of the bus.

So break out your bullhorn or your megaphone,
start working on a booming big-boy/big-girl voice,
draw attention to your hard work and efforts, and
if all else fails; be pleased with yourself!

Part of not waiting for others to fall in line is acting
like you've already achieved everything you want.

Confidence inspires the same, whereas humility and
timidity get you overlooked and stepped on.

Give yourself the approval, the 'thumbs up,' the
pat on the back.

It's kill or be killed in the world, and subtlety and
humility are just an invitation to make you the appetizer.

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The Mystery IS the Good Stuff

Mystery is the best part....and here's why!

The less you know, the better most things are--from
restaurant food preparation to people's histories to the
creative process behind your favorite TV show.

Nowhere, though, is this more true than in relationships.

The less time spent together, the less in-depth the talks,
the less emotions and thoughts and personal past we
share with each other (both false and edited and purely
subjective versions,) the better the chances we'll still
get along in our mutual pretense of getting along.

The Honeymoon Phase works because it's the limited
access phase where we are basing all our good feelings
on the best impression/limited understanding/projecting
our own interpretation portion of the show.

Once shit starts getting real, the magic wears off.

Good feelings exist when there hasn't been sufficient time
to develop bad feelings. Prolong it as long as possible.

And when you've extracted all the goodness from it and
there's nowhere to go but deeper; time to move on.

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Take Names & Numbers, Not Shit

Effectiveness is barging in
    intimidating
       demanding
           not-taking-'no'
               not caring about feelings...

tough as nails
   dickish behavior
      not sitting back
         no more wishing
                           and pouting
                                     and whining
nor waiting to have it handed to you.


Get active and bold
     and forceful
         and argue if need be
               and TAKE A STAND.

No giving up,
     no running away
         no caving when people get pushy
                           or want to have a pissing contest.


There is no morality; just win or lose.

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"The Climb" David Sides ft. Ahmir

Smart, Self-Satisfied, Survival-Minded

Most of us end up being unwittingly more devoted and loyal

to a company or cause or spouse than we are to ourselves.

But in our life, we are the most important person/thing we

will ever have to dedicate ourselves to.

It's not your fault if you got off track

(or off on the wrong foot);

this world avoids teaching survival skills...

like being

feral and protective and relentless when it comes

to looking out for # 1. This world preaches codependency,

softness, work 'ethic' (though no such reciprocity nor guarantees

remain) and everything but self-preservation.

Well, when you're ready...or today, especially if you're not ready--

make a deep and meaningful commitment....a contract even....

to preserving the self.

That you will no longer think twice about driving all the way

across town, or burning the midnight oil, or sacrificing

when it's in regard to something you want for a change.

That the odds against you are insignificant, and

ridiculous stresses (or slings and arrows) are not worth

considering, let alone being troubled by.

That you will cause no harm to self, especially by

giving up.

Push, plan, train, work it, persevere;

This is your life, and it's worth fighting for.

If you lay down, there's no one else waiting in

the wings to take over for you.

That's cause for motivation, not upset.

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Weary Ain't Dead

No matter how tired,
   tested,
   bested,
   broken,
   weary,
   ravaged,
   afraid,
   ragged,
   wiped,
   hurting,
   saddened,
   disappointed,
   weak,
   disillusioned,
   directionless,
   confused,
   whelmed,
   distracted,
   depressed,
   frustrated,
   or abused you are at this moment in time....

If there is an ounce of breath in you, the fight's
not muthah-fucking over yet.

Get your ass in the ring and do what you have to do.

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Show Off All Your Color

Wear Your Skin Proudly

Beyond reprimand,

beyond reproach,

beyond concern,

beyond restriction,

there is only the You

that you want to be...

not in defiance of

what others do,

but simply being...

unfettered and free.

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